In the Dating Game Appearances Aren’t Everything

Part 3 of a 3 Part Series on Intentional Dating. Dating tips and advice from Love Attraction and Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, Nanette Geiger.

Intentional Dating – Appearances Aren’t Everything

PART 3 of a 3 Part Series on Intentional Dating

In Part One of Intentional Dating, called “Winning the Dating Game,” we talked about what things to avoid doing and what behaviors to exhibit while playing the dating game. I hope these conscious dating tips have helped you see that you are in charge of the game.

In Part Two, entitled “Play with Passion and Purpose,” we talked about the keeping the game FUN, rather than a Win/Lose proposition. Remember, it’s your game. You get to make the rules.

In the last of our series on Intentional Dating, “Appearance Aren’t Everything,” let’s talk about the all important external part of appearance. Here are the results from a survey taken by a popular dating.

As you can see, Personality rated top, overwhelmingly!

What does that say about a person? What does it say about the dater and the datee? It says that personality, no matter what side of the table you’re on, is a desirable trait from either person’s point of view.

Now Appearance is often categorized as an external representation of a person. But as you can see, Personality was rated number one. Personality, self-confidence, an engaging attitude, warmth and authenticity are the traits that win out over Physical Appearance. So many of us are hung up on physical appearance, we get stopped before we get started.

What are characteristics of personality? Confidence. Self-confidence to be precise. The ability to relax, enjoy, and communicate in relaxed and engaging manners.

What are inherent traits of self-confidence?

1. Knowing what you want.
2. Self-assurance. Feeling assured that what you want is within your reach.
3. Self-esteem. Knowing you’re worthy of what you want.
4. Poise. Under most circumstances you remain non-plussed.

What I’m pointing to is the non-physical aspects of ‘Personality’. An engaging personality has little to do with physical appearances.

Many people I know, whether they’re getting back into the dating game, or just thinking about it get stopped with the externals of the game.

• “I’m no longer a spring chicken.”
• “I can’t compete with the hotties.”
• “The singles scene seems so superficial.”

That kind of internal dialog will never get you back out into circulation. Feeling confident, having an engaging attitude, always having a ready, genuine smile and being kind, are the winners of the day. Realize that you don’t have to do the singles thing. You can meet Mr. or Ms. Right in the grocery store, at church, on a walk, anywhere. Don’t limit yourself by what others are saying.

Now from the perspective of the Law of Attraction, the essence of what you emanate is attracted or drawn right back to you. If that’s so, (and it is) doesn’t it makes sense to get dressed with a smile before you go out of the house? It becomes a matter of practicing the traits of self-confidence; being clear about what you want, the ability to have it, knowing your worthy of what you want, and being calmly expectant that the timing is all in perfect order.

To be in the intentional dating mode, you need to ENERGETICALLY dress for success.

To win the dating game, you want to remember it’s your choice. You chose it, so choose it to be fun.

Now you’re in the mode of going forth with confidence.

It would be a good idea to script your desired outcome for any date. Write a little summary of an after-the-fact successful date. Write as though the date already happened and you’re really pleased with the outcome. If you don’t have any dating prospects, script a pleasant outcome from a trip to the library or coffee shop. You’re creating your entire life by your beliefs and your thoughts, so why not get creative and deliberate about it. You might pleasantly surprise yourself.

Your enjoyment of life is directly related to how you perceive every event, situation or outcome. It’s not always easy to see that our interpretation of an event is what makes it good or bad. Fully empower yourself by taking 100% responsibility for your joy and self-expression. Nobody else has the power to make you feel bad or good, for that matter. It’s always an inside job.

Remember, dating is a game. Relationships are a game. We play to have fun, to explore and expand our nature. As your Love Attraction Coach, I always advise that you make sure your games are for fun and not just to win. This way you’ll always have a great experience. I wish you many fun adventures!

About the author:
Top Law of Attraction Coach, Nanette Geiger, is the author of the Best Selling book, “Create the Love of Your Dreams,” as well as many other books and articles focusing on Law of Attraction, Manifesting Wealth and Relationship Attraction.

You can find more helpful articles on the resource page and books on the publications page of her website at http://www.nanettegeiger.com.

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