Play the Dating Game with Passion and Purpose
Part 2 of a 3 Part Series on Intentional Dating
In the first installment of Intentional Dating, I asked you: “What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives and intentions before you wade through the muck and mire of the dating scene”? I also said that “Your thoughts create your reality and if that’s so, wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?” These questions are designed to get you thinking about how you deserve to attract love. Read further for more advice and tips on how to enjoy playing and winning the dating game.
In Part 2, I’ll go more deeply into the aspects of playing a game as we did when we remembered a game WAS supposed to be fun with no losers.
Play with Passion and Purpose
Dating is a game. It’s a game you wrote the rules to. The problem is, you forgot you wrote the rules. You hid the rules and forgot where you put them.
Of all the games we might play, chess, scrabble, card or video games, isn’t it odd that we might design and construct a game and then forget the rules. It’s even stranger that you forget that your wrote the rules and designed the game.
Following along this premise, why would a being do such a seemingly ridiculous thing? Because, this is the tricky domain of the ego or the self-limiting identity that has come to be called by your name. You are not simply a collection of your past experiences, your history, job title, affiliations and opinions. Though most of your conditioning and training would have you believe that.
To play the Intentional Dating game, you need to know that:
- You are playing a game
- You willingly remember that it’s going to be fun (because you created it as a game for that purpose), and
- There are no winners or losers.
Remember when you were a kid playing in the sandbox, making sandcastles or mud cakes? Remember when you played tag or hide and seek? You could play for hours and hours. It was just plain and simple fun. Innocence. Try to access that innocence just for a moment right now.
Where did it go? Why have so many of us lost it? In the previous paragraph notice how quickly it returned – if just for a moment – but it did return! That’s exactly how you create a desired outcome. You remember it into being, you pretend it into existence, you play it into reality for the sake of playing. And guess what? Your energy shifts so quickly to that light and high vibration, that unless you negate it with old patterns and limiting beliefs, you become very attractive. You’re energy is literally calling out to like energy to play with it.
The 2 Biggest Stoppers to Intentional Dating
- Fear of failure/rejection
- Fear of looking bad/not enough
1. The fear of failure is very human
Perhaps in your past a relationship or two hasn’t worked out. Welcome to the club. That has happened to everyone of us. It doesn’t mean anything about who you are. It’s just something that happened. You would grant anyone of your friends the space to move on after a relationship that didn’t work out? Of course you would. Considering that failing is just making room for a new experience. Remember your game. To play and be present. Show up intending to have fun and learn something new, not to prove how great you are or how broken you are.
Try on innocence and play full out. Just try it and see how different it feels. Nobody is out to take something from you that you’re not willing to give. Certainly, there may be different expectations from your date. There’s nothing wrong with that. Simply and clear communication can handle that. Believe me, you’re going to have different expectations and points of compatibility. If you didn’t, you’d get awfully bored of that person in a very short period of time. If you decide that you only wanted one play date, so be it. There’s no inherent rejection involved. It’s just a choice on how you or he/she prefers to spend their time. It’s just a choice not a rejection.
2. Do you have a case of the not-enoughers?
Your internal dialog is “I’m not thin enough”, “I’m not rich enough”, you know those stories. You’re just not enough. Consider that at the core, everyone has that ancient internal conversation, too. You’re not alone here.
Do your best to remain present and on purpose in your game. That is, your purpose is to have fun. Think of it as an exploration. “What’s something new can I learn about myself or my date?” Send the energy in advance of your date. By that I mean to actively declare what you intend for that date. For example, “I intend to have fun and to laugh on this date. I’m going to let it be easy and light”. Now you’ve just paved an energetic pathway for your date.
Playing with passion and purpose is a simple way expand who you are in the moment. It’s a very different approach to dating. Passion means full out, self-expression with the focus on having fun. Purpose means deliberating intending what you’re up to. The bottom line is HAVE FUN.
The vibration of FUN is one of the highest around. Let it go. Laugh and have fun. You’ll become a magnet for fun people and if you keep practicing that, eventually you’ll attract the perfect fun mate.
It doesn’t matter if your 25 or 75 dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, goes much more smoothly for everyone.
In my last of this Law of Attraction Dating series, Part Three of Intentional Dating, I’ll be covering … “Appearances Aren’t Everything.”
About the author:
Top Law of Attraction Coach, Nanette Geiger, is the author of the Best Selling book, “Create the Love of Your Dreams,” as well as many other books and articles focusing on Law of Attraction, Manifesting Wealth and Relationship Attraction.
You can find more helpful articles on the resource page and books on the publications page of her website at http://www.nanettegeiger.com.
You really can have the Life of your Dreams! Download Nanette’s latest FREE ebook, 5 Secrets to Creating and Attracting the Life of Your Dreams , and start creating the life you want today!
Article Source: http://www.nanettegeiger.com/resources/play-with-passion-and-purpose
(cc) 2008 by Nanette Geiger. All rights reserved.
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Part 2 of a 3 Part Series on Intentional Dating. Expert dating tips on love attraction.
Playing the Dating Game with Passion and Purpose
Part 2 of a 3 Part Series on Intentional Dating
In the first installment of Intentional Dating, I asked you: “What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives and intentions before you wade through the muck and mire of the dating scene”? I also said that “Your thoughts create your reality and if that’s so, wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?” These questions are designed to get you thinking about how you deserve to attract love. Read further for more advice and tips on how to enjoy playing and winning the dating game.
In Part 2, I’ll go more deeply into the aspects of playing a game as we did when we remembered a game WAS supposed to be fun with no losers.
Play with Passion and Purpose
Dating is a game. It’s a game you wrote the rules to. The problem is, you forgot you wrote the rules. You hid the rules and forgot where you put them.
Of all the games we might play, chess, scrabble, card or video games, isn’t it odd that we might design and construct a game and then forget the rules. It’s even stranger that you forget that your wrote the rules and designed the game.
Following along this premise, why would a being do such a seemingly ridiculous thing? Because, this is the tricky domain of the ego or the self-limiting identity that has come to be called by your name. You are not simply a collection of your past experiences, your history, job title, affiliations and opinions. Though most of your conditioning and training would have you believe that.
To play the Intentional Dating game, you need to know that:
- You are playing a game
- You willingly remember that it’s going to be fun (because you created it as a game for that purpose), and
- There are no winners or losers.
Remember when you were a kid playing in the sandbox, making sandcastles or mud cakes? Remember when you played tag or hide and seek? You could play for hours and hours. It was just plain and simple fun. Innocence. Try to access that innocence just for a moment right now.
Where did it go? Why have so many of us lost it? In the previous paragraph notice how quickly it returned – if just for a moment – but it did return! That’s exactly how you create a desired outcome. You remember it into being, you pretend it into existence, you play it into reality for the sake of playing. And guess what? Your energy shifts so quickly to that light and high vibration, that unless you negate it with old patterns and limiting beliefs, you become very attractive. You’re energy is literally calling out to like energy to play with it.
The 2 Biggest Stoppers to Intentional Dating
- Fear of failure/rejection
- Fear of looking bad/not enough
1. The fear of failure is very human
Perhaps in your past a relationship or two hasn’t worked out. Welcome to the club. That has happened to everyone of us. It doesn’t mean anything about who you are. It’s just something that happened. You would grant anyone of your friends the space to move on after a relationship that didn’t work out? Of course you would. Considering that failing is just making room for a new experience. Remember your game. To play and be present. Show up intending to have fun and learn something new, not to prove how great you are or how broken you are.
Try on innocence and play full out. Just try it and see how different it feels. Nobody is out to take something from you that you’re not willing to give. Certainly, there may be different expectations from your date. There’s nothing wrong with that. Simply and clear communication can handle that. Believe me, you’re going to have different expectations and points of compatibility. If you didn’t, you’d get awfully bored of that person in a very short period of time. If you decide that you only wanted one play date, so be it. There’s no inherent rejection involved. It’s just a choice on how you or he/she prefers to spend their time. It’s just a choice not a rejection.
2. Do you have a case of the not-enoughers?
Your internal dialog is “I’m not thin enough”, “I’m not rich enough”, you know those stories. You’re just not enough. Consider that at the core, everyone has that ancient internal conversation, too. You’re not alone here.
Do your best to remain present and on purpose in your game. That is, your purpose is to have fun. Think of it as an exploration. “What’s something new can I learn about myself or my date?” Send the energy in advance of your date. By that I mean to actively declare what you intend for that date. For example, “I intend to have fun and to laugh on this date. I’m going to let it be easy and light”. Now you’ve just paved an energetic pathway for your date.
Playing with passion and purpose is a simple way expand who you are in the moment. It’s a very different approach to dating. Passion means full out, self-expression with the focus on having fun. Purpose means deliberating intending what you’re up to. The bottom line is HAVE FUN.
The vibration of FUN is one of the highest around. Let it go. Laugh and have fun. You’ll become a magnet for fun people and if you keep practicing that, eventually you’ll attract the perfect fun mate.
It doesn’t matter if your 25 or 75 dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, goes much more smoothly for everyone.
In my last of this Law of Attraction Dating series, Part Three of Intentional Dating, I’ll be covering … “Appearances Aren’t Everything.”
About the author:Top Law of Attraction Coach, Nanette Geiger, is the author of the Best Selling book, “Create the Love of Your Dreams,” as well as many other books and articles focusing on Law of Attraction, Manifesting Wealth and Relationship Attraction. You can find more helpful articles on the resource page and books on the publications page of her website at http://www.nanettegeiger.com.You really can have the Life of your Dreams! Download Nanette’s latest FREE ebook, 5 Secrets to Creating and Attracting the Life of Your Dreams , and start creating the life you want today!
Article Source: http://www.nanettegeiger.com/resources/play-with-passion-and-purpose
(cc) 2008 by Nanette Geiger. All rights reserved.
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